Reading paths

Before something you are dreading

This is a sequence for the night before something difficult — an appointment, a conversation, a return to a place you would rather not go. It is not a method for removing fear, and it takes no view on whether you should go through with the thing. The Gītā begins with a man who cannot make himself act, and it does not hurry him. It assumes the difficult thing is one you have chosen or accepted; if it is being done to you, this is probably not the sequence you need.

A reading suggestion from Devdarshan Bastola, GMBPsS, counselling psychologist — not treatment, not a description of anyone reading it, and not a substitute for care you are already receiving. Nothing here asks you to hurry anything you feel.

If you are in crisis, or having thoughts of ending your life, please contact your doctor, your therapist, your local emergency number, or a crisis line in your country now. That is a better use of the next hour than reading on alone.

  1. गाण्डीवं स्रंसते हस्तात्त्वक्चैव परिदह्यते।

    The Gandiva slips from my hand, and my skin burns all over; I am unable to stand, and my mind is reeling, as it were.

    Arjuna is not yet fighting. The bow slips from his hand, the skin burns, the mind reels — all before anything has happened. Dread arrives early and in the body. Chapter 1 passes no verdict on it; Kṛṣṇa, at 2.3, is blunter.

  2. न चैतद्विद्मः कतरन्नो गरीयो

    I can hardly tell which would be better, that we should conquer them or that they should conquer us. Even the sons of Dhritarashtra, whom we do not…

    He cannot work out which outcome would even be better. Dread usually runs on trying to know a result in advance; here the uncertainty is stated plainly and left standing, unresolved, before any teaching begins.

  3. कार्पण्यदोषोपहतस्वभावः

    My heart is overpowered by the taint of pity; my mind is confused as to my duty. I ask Thee: Tell me decisively what is good for me. I am Thy…

    Then he asks. Śiṣyas te 'ham — I am your student; tell me. The Gītā's teaching starts only after someone asks for it, which is worth noticing on a night when asking feels like a failure.

  4. मात्रास्पर्शास्तु कौन्तेय शीतोष्णसुखदुःखदाः।

    The contact of the senses with the objects, O son of Kunti, which causes heat and cold, pleasure and pain, has a beginning and an end; they are…

    Heat and cold, pleasure and pain: āgamāpāyinaḥ, coming and going. The claim is about the transience of states, not their unimportance. Titikṣasva means bear them — endurance, which is not the same as not feeling them.

  5. नेहाभिक्रमनाशोऽस्ति प्रत्यवायो न विद्यते।

    In this, there is no loss of effort, nor is there any harm produced, nor any transgression. Even a little of this knowledge protects one from great…

    The verse claims that nothing begun here is lost — nehābhikramanāśo'sti — and that a little of it protects from great fear, mahato bhayāt. Placed here for the reader afraid of doing the thing badly rather than of doing it at all.

  6. कर्मण्येवाधिकारस्ते मा फलेषु कदाचन।

    Your right is only to work, but not to its results; do not let the results of action be your motive, nor let your attachment be to inaction.

    The famous verse comes sixth, not first. Said too early to a frightened person it sounds like dismissal; said here it does something narrower — it moves the point of engagement from the outcome, which is not yours, to the doing, which is.

  7. सहजं कर्म कौन्तेय सदोषमपि न त्यजेत्।

    One should not, O Arjuna, abandon the duty to which one is born, though it may be faulty; for, all undertakings are enveloped by evil, just as fire…

    Every undertaking is veiled by fault as fire is by smoke. Read on this particular night, it says something small and useful: the text does not expect the hard thing to be done cleanly. The verse's first half is a different matter — it tells a man not to abandon the work he was born to, which in the Gītā's world means the work of his varṇa, and it is not a reason for anyone to stay where they are.

The sequence ends before the thing does. Arjuna's dread is not argued away in chapter 2; it returns, and the conversation runs on for sixteen more chapters. Whatever tomorrow turns out to be, the text has no verdict waiting on the other side of it.